After the Affair audiobook

It’s hard to review this book when you’re still in the midst of the storm. But it seems practical and helpful. If nothing else, I’ve walked away from it knowing myself better.

Patiko. Smulkiai išnagrinėti įvairūs variantai. Visos poros yra skirtingi,nėra bendro patarimo visiems atvejams.

This book is such a surprise for me. I wasn't expecting to like this book because it is so old and feared the information would be outdated. It was nice that this was not the case. Another surprising factor was that the author looks at infidelity from the perspective of both the cheater and the person cheated on. She shows readers how to get into each other's heads and hearts and understand why the affair happened as well as what needs to be done to help both people heal from the affair. Many books about cheating focus on the female perspective as they tend to be the ones who turn to feelings of depression. It is so refreshing to see a book for both sides of infidelity for all genders. This is a book that both partners should read so that they can have conversations about what happened, and what can be done to heal from the affair. The author doesn't take sides, but what she does is show how the affair hurts everyone involved. This book has also good suggestions that will lead to better communication.

A fantastic book that transcends its title and subject matter. It's not just as simple as how to survive a partners affair. It's a great book for anyone, no matter where you are in your relationship. Or if your single, it applies also. The book offers insight into our own feelings, thoughts, and perceptions about who we are attracted to. For instance, ever wondered why a habit or mannerism you thought cute or attractive when you first met your partner now drives you insane? I never considered the fact that we carry unseen and unkown baggage into our relationships from not just previous romantic ones, but also from our perceptions of our parents marriage and/or interaction. I found this book really helpful and continue to occasionally reread parts of it weekly. I highly recommend it for anyone whether they are dealing with infidelity, any kind of relationship struggle, and even those that are deliriously happy. Relationships take crazy work, they don't exist in a vacuum. The better we know ourselves the better partner we can be for those we love!

What I like about this book is that the author looks at infidelity from the perspective of the cheater and the person cheated on. She shows readers how to get into each other's heads and hearts and understand why the affair happened as well as what needs to be done to help both people heal from the affair. This is a book that both partners should read so that they can have conversations about what happened, and what can be done to heal from the affair. The author doesn't take sides, but what she does is show how the affair hurts everyone involved. This book has also good suggestions that will lead to better communication.

As a practicing therapist, I found reading this book very useful for working with couples going through an affair. It is written as a how-to manual for couples wanting to rebuild their relationship after an affair, and is packed with activities and exercises to help people examine their beliefs, feelings, thinking, and how their past contributed to their actions. It also comes with exercises to help a couple regain trust after an affair.A must read for people experiencing infidelity or people who work with couples.

It helped in the aftermath if my husbands indiscretion, but in the end, it was all on me. Was I going to survive or succumb to my broken heart. I chose to survive and, when I was ready, to forgive.

I had to sit and marinate everything this book had to say before writing my review.First, I'm sorry if you have to read this. It's been months and I am still an emotional mess due to infidelity. I never thought I was going to be the girl who was cheated on, but it happened, and although I still cry once a day, I am still alive. I was looking for a "miracle cure" when picking out this book to read, and funny enough, this book taught me there is no real "miracle cure" for fixing all the trauma and sadness in your heart. You can talk to your partner, you can work through it together, but you can't fix the lies. You can't heal the betrayal over night. I don't agree with every single thing the author said in this book. Certain things said about the unfaithful partner stung me a bit, as the POV was almost a little TOO unbiased. But overall, this book was a nice pat on the back, assuring me that everything is going to be okay.

This is a good book for couples seeking to recover from an affair and for clinicians trying to understand the healing process. Mrs. Spring describes four phases - sorting through the emotional fallout, deciding whether to stay or quit, understanding the factors that led to the affair, and rebuilding trust. She also discusses how to talk about the affair and what to expect when couples begin having sex again. Spring comes from experience, is filled with a lot of good sense, anticipates objections, and is a good communicator. I don't agree with everything she writes (e.g., she says that fantasizing about others while having sex is harmless), but I think that couples who read this book will have a good picture of what to expect as they seek recovery.

The aftermath of an affair is a cruel tangle of betrayal, confusion, guilt and loss of innocence. They leave couples and family emotionally desolated. Life is very complicated where it wasn't before. Couples can survive affairs and do all the time but that only happens in a context of honesty and accountability. Springs book is a classic of the subject, along with Frank Pittman's "Private Lies". If you have been involved in an affair or are supporting someone who has I would highly recommend reading this as part of the process of recovery.

As a therapist working with individuals and couples who have experienced infidelity, I strongly recommend this book. I appreciated the 2012 update to include cyber infidelity. This book does a good job addressing both the person who had the affair and the person hurt by the affair!

Would love to read this book but dont know how to access it

Great book!

This book is amazing! It helped me to understand how to cope with infidelity. It definitely helps to heal the trauma. Highly recommended!