Becoming Cliterate audiobook

This book is a must-have for every person who has a vulva (heck yeah, applying lessons from the book) or would like to help pleasure someone who has one. Before reading this, I was fairly skeptical. I had the feeling that it would be the type of book 40+ year old housewives read that makes them name their genitalia, speak about it as if it has feelings and suggests group masturbation sessions to everyone they know. Which, isn't bad but is definitely not who I am.However, this book is so so far from this. Before reading it, I thought my sexual knowledge was, well, average. However, looking at it now, I feel like sex education has cheated me because there's so much that just gets ignored or doesn't get enough attention. The sex education that I remember highlighted the dangers of unsafe sex and talked about all the ways you can suddenly get pregnant. I don't even remember the idea of pleasure being involved, let alone a conversation about the importance of communicating during sex. I had no idea how many of the ideas that I hold do not reflecting my thoughts or knowledge. Like, despite everything, I've always considered sex = penetration even though I have the knowledge that not all sex includes penetration. It's like there's this dissonance between the factual knowledge that I hold and the way I view things and this book managed to help close that gap. The author writes so clearly and accessible. She manages to make these topics casual, informative and understandable. It's just so clear and so well written. It's science based yet not heavy, funny yet smart. Really, you do get the feeling like it's a counseling session. I found myself sitting down and literally re-evaluating every sexual encounter I've ever had. It was enlightening to suddenly reconsider and redefine how I've been thinking about intimacy and sexual encounters. Reading a book that suddenly makes you go, "wow, I've been looking at this the wrong way" is such a powerful and positive experience. It was fascinating to consider how many myths exist around an action that is so normal, you know? People still think penis size influences their performance or that anyone cares about the appearance of the lips of the vulva. We've failed ourselves when there's so much social pressure that is just false and harmful. This book does much to clean this away. It's so sad to consider how much of sex is still portrayed as shameful, from slut-shaming to the "walk of shame", our culture really doesn't do enough to show the sheer beauty of sexuality and intimacy. The parts about communication were interesting as well. I mean, I did know and have experienced how important communication before, during and after sex can be but it was great to hear about all these examples and truly see how much of an impact simply saying what you think and want can have. Mintz talks about the power of language and truly, reading this, I found myself thinking about how the word in Hebrew for clit is embarrassing. It comes from the same word "tickle" and it's just not a word that I would feel comfortable using in my daily life. This really makes me wonder what it's like in other languages and how international and culturally broad is this phenomenon. Totally tempted to ask bilinguals now what's the cultural usage of the word clit. And speaking of language, my one and only word of criticism toward this book is that it's not queer friendly enough. Sure, the author tries her best to include the idea that sex isn't just man and woman but it's not trans-friendly at all. Just as we need to stop saying vagina when we mean vulva, we need to stop saying women when we mean people with a specific set of genitalia. This idea that women all have vulvas ignores approximately 0.6% of the population that are trans and maybe do not have the genitalia you'd assume.And yeah, some people might argue that that's minor but when you look at the insane number of trans women that get murdered, this idea becomes insidious. Gender isn't a binary and it's high time we stopped seeing sex as a binary as well. Every time I hear people speak up about this, I immediately think about how I was beginning to date this girl and eventually she goes, "I have to tell you something," and there was actual fear in her eyes as she told me she's trans, literally apologized and assured me that it's okay if that's a deal breaker. We are not doing nearly enough to make the dating and hook-up scene comfortable for queer people and feminist books like this should absolutely talk about this. Apart from this, I feel like I've learned a lot and am really happy to have read this. When I write reviews, I do think about how everything you write online is permanent and can be seen by everyone (often without your knowledge) but at the same time, yeah, I'm totally going to own the fact that I read a book about orgasms cause I don't need this shame in my life. What I'm Taking With Me - Guys do want to make sure their partner enjoys the experience, claiming that they simply care about their own pleasure is unfair and really, the problem is the culture around us and the lack of communication and understanding of the biology.- Arousal is a state where your body sends more blood to your genitalia without it flowing back. Then, an orgasm is when the blood rushes back. A female and a male orgasm are exactly the same, although the process is external for people with penises (that is, an erection) and internal for people with vulvas.- Vulvas! Vagina refers only to a part of the vulva and when we use the word vagina, we imply that the entire genitalia is simply the part that gives pleasure to people with penises and that's not right at all. - Only around 5% of the women manage to experience an orgasm during hook-up sex for the first time. This statistic is so so wild, like that number is tiny. - The idea of the clit as something that is solely meant for pleasure. Uni Adventures- aHH, this coming week is going to be so hard and I have so many hard choices ahead of me which is leading to me panicking which is messing up with my studying.- In other news, I'm redoing Ethics and seriously, fuck this, I can't believe I need to reread Kant again, haven't I suffered enough? - This week was just me trying to study, getting distracted, going to a coffee shop, studying really well, missing all of my study goals, and feeling sad. - I went to another philosophy conference and have reached the conclusion that philosophers are seriously just mean to each other. There's no way around it, we should just go back to Ancient Greece and the agora, things were better there. - Seeing a grad student from Chicago get brutally attacked by like 3 Israeli philosophy professors was just so sad and he was so visibly upset and yeah okay, his lecture wasn't great and ultimately, I had no idea what he was trying to say but still. - I've just been listening to Eurovision in the hopes that maybe that will add joy to Econ and it's sad to think that Israel's song choice is just so bad.- Okay, so we have elections on Monday and as a Politics major, I feel obligated to vote but I also don't feel like any one of the parties deserves my vote, I feel like they're all equally terrible and there's no one, although 40 parties are running. - It's embarrassingly hard (as Mintz would say, no pun intended) not to think about the game Plague whenever people bring up statistics about Corona. - Man, can the new semester just start already, I'm so over this?

Looking for a smart, sassy book about feminism and sexuality and equal-opportunity orgasms? Becoming Cliterate is your gal.It’s this year’s Come As You Are! With a complete focus on vulvas! This book is set up like a college textbook for female orgasm, with some philosophy and pep talks and then some hands-on experimenting. And a chapter at the end for male partners to read. What more could you need?From Taking Care of Yourself with Books at Book Riot.

If I had to choose one word to summarize this book it would be "empowering." Mintz offers valuable information not only about female orgasm and the clitoris, but also about the female anatomy, mindfulness, and communication with your partner. And she does it all with humor and a great spirit!

EVERYONE needs to read this book.

While the title may not hold universal appeal, I found this book to be a fascinating resource about women’s sexuality. The author is so sincere in her desire to help young women discover and enjoy their bodies. She provides a wealth of information on anatomy and function, including graphs, statistics, and illustrations. I loved that about this book. On the other hand, I found her language usage to be, well…less than elegant. She has a sense of humor that just doesn’t work for me—even in the title. Anyhow, the book was an easy read and I seriously thought I should buy copies for my (young adult) daughters.

This book was fantastic! If you’re ready to have your entire mindset shifted around your pleasure (ladies, I’m talking to you) and why your orgasms matter (plus, bonuses on how to get there!) then you need to read this gem of a book! So glad I picked it up! Will be buying for all my friends.

"Becoming Cliterate" by Dr Laurie Mintz is an amazing book for anyone who wants to learn about female sexuality and specifically the clitoris, the one human organ solely responsible for pleasure. According to research, only 5% of women achieve orgasms through penetration only, an overwhelming 95% need some form of clitorial stimulation. Yet we as a society almost never talk about the clitoris, men who learn about sex through porn think thay penetration is all a woman needs to orgasm. So in turn women orgam way less than men and actually feel pressured to fake orgasms and it's not ok! This book debunks alot of sex myths with research and it teaches everyone how to become aware and more Cliterate, and how to enjoy our own bodies and those of others. It's a must read. We need a sexual satisfaction revolution for women!

If you have had an orgasm, have not had an orgasm, care about having or giving orgasms.....this is probably on a must-read list for you. Laurie Mintz does an excellent job of dispelling the myth of how orgasms occur, why porn and movies have perpetuated this myth and totally ruined it for women, and how to ........the list goes on and on. Easy to read style that is just the right amount of girl talk and science. And yes..there is a chapter for men to read to. :)

Yup, I read a book about sex. I almost didn't include it in my Read list,but then I realized I'd be perpetuating the weird shame women have around talking about sexuality. This book gave a fascinating look at why women are uncomfortable talking about sex, how feminism has changed sexuality, and encourages women to appreciate the uniqueness of their own bodies.

This is so important. Everyone that has a cookie or loves someone with a cookie needs this book.🌷love. love. love.

Unfortunately, this was a very informative read! I say unfortunately NOT because I didn’t like the book (I did), but because I had to go out of my way to learn about my own anatomy. Figures!With that being said, I would recommend this book to everyone, whether you have a vulva or not! I loved the author’s perspective on how our language contributes to “orgasm inequality,” and this book does a great job at squashing sex myths and promoting sex-positivity. Overall a great read.