How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will audiobook

I wholeheartedly stand behind the belief that through our interactions with children we can learn how to behave respectfully to our surroundings; patience, kindness, and acceptance should be shown to all.So, picking up this book at the library (where I coincidentally discovered the shelf full of psychology reads I'm about to devour!!) felt like the natural next step in learning more about our methods of communication. Also, I have a nine-year-old sister at home who I want to feel like she's being listened to as an equal, which is where this book came in handy. How can I express my honest feelings in a way that will make it possible for the other person to hear me and even consider what I have to say? I was beyond keen on making sure I'd implement the many useful pieces of advice offered in this quick read: The emphasis put on simply listening and making sure they know you're on their side, the importance of acknowledging the kid's emotions and not brushing them off, accusing vs. describing feelings, giving tips on problem-solving, being conscious in your word choice because truth without morality is not truth. Like this brilliant quote I read from Haim Ginott:"Truth for its own sake can be a deadly weapon in family relations. Truth without compassion can destroy love. Some parents try too hard to prove exactly how, where and why they have been right. This approach will bring bitterness and disappointment. When attitudes are hostile, facts are unconvincing.”These instances helped me understand the best:• Why our "natural" response tends to minimize their emotions: “I also think it’s natural,” I said, “for parents to push away painful or upsetting feelings. It’s hard for us to listen to our teenagers express their confusion or resentment or disappointment or discouragement. We can’t bear to see them unhappy. So it’s with the best of intentions that we dismiss their feelings and impose our adult logic. We want to show them the ‘right’ way to feel.” The ultimate goal of a parent is to reach the stage where their kid will have the confidence to listen to themselves and make responsible choices on their own.“That’s the big challenge,” I said. “To shift our thinking from ‘how do I fix things?’ to ‘how do I enable my kids to fix things for themselves?’ ”• On the negative connotations of punishment; opting to use alternatives such as #1 State your feelings. #2 State your expectations. #3 Show how to make amends. #4 Offer a choice. #5 Take action.”“When you punish a kid, you close the door on him. He’s got no place to go. It’s a done deal. But when you take action, the kid might not like the action, but the door is still open. He still has a chance. He can face up to what he did and try to fix it. He can turn a ‘wrong’ into a ‘right.’ ”Also: the four-panel comics really brought the ideas to life:Instead of Angry Reprimands …When Praising KidsInstead of Evaluating …In short:• “Feelings matter. Not just your own, but those of people with whom you disagree.• Civility matters. Anger can be expressed without insult.• Words matter. What you choose to say can cause resentment or generate goodwill.• Punishment has no place in a caring relationship. We’re all people in process—capable of making mistakes and capable of facing our mistakes and making amends.• Our differences needn’t defeat us. Problems that seem insoluble can yield to respectful listening, creativity, and persistence.• We all need to feel valued. Not only for who we are now, but for who we can become.”Note: I’m an Amazon Affiliate. If you’re interested in buying How to Talk So Teens Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk, just click on the image below to go through my link. I’ll make a small commission!  Support creators you love. Buy a Coffee for nat (bookspoils) with Ko-fi.com/bookspoils This review and more can be found on my blog.

Short audiobook. Good advice, which is all about communication or how we communicate. The advice is useful for all situations, really. I hope I remember and put into practice some of the strategies and ways of communicating.We shall see ... old habits, ingrained behaviours and ways of communicating die hard.

Teens are in that beautifully awkward growing period... not yet adults and mostly done with being little kids. This book is a really helpful reminder of 1) how they're thinking about life and 2) how to respond and listen well to encourage communication. It's immensely practical.

I’m a big fan of this writer duo and am particularly grateful for the wisdom gained from all their books I’ve read so far...First was How to talk so kids will listen - applied again and again with my kids when they were 4-10...Also read Liberated Parents, Liberated Children at the same time. Then I just forgot about these skills for the last few years..When my kids became teenagers and everyone started talking about all the burdens and expectations that go with this supposedly difficult age, I was reminded of this books existence by a friend. How timely it was. This book reminds me to be empathetic, not to jump to conclusions and to talk less and listen more. The format of the book makes it a very relatable read, and my favourite section is on the workshop where they meet the kids and the thoughts they share. This is a fundamental book in communication and there’s great value to be gained from it again and again.

Does it ever feel like you and your teen are speaking two completely different languages? This book will help you get your point across so that you can communicate your feelings, expectations, instructions, hopes, etc., effectively and with compassion. The authors don't pretend that they're revealing some secret esoteric psychological magic trick or tactic for parents to manipulate their teens with, rather they propose that we treat our teens with the dignity and respect they deserve, without sacrificing our experience and concerns as adults. The books is a quick and easy read (just under 200 pages). The drawings and illustrations make everything easy to understand, and the summaries toward the end of each chapter quickly sum up the principles addressed in the chapter, making it easy to go back and remember what you read. What's great is that these principles can be applied to communicating with most people, not just teenagers. I recommend this to anyone communicating with others one-on-one.

Rating 4.5/5.0A great parenting and communication book! It actually laid out some common knowledge. However, it gave us examples on how to use it on parenting, especially for teenagers. It covered the simplest issues like doing homework until the most serious problem like sex and drugs. I'm not a parent, but I can definitely see myself using the lessons I got from this book. A must read for parents!The missing half of the rating is because I still got confused at some points, but overall, this is a great book.

Some thoughts were helpful.

I've listened twice now. I like how it's in a workshop format & you get real life examples of patents dealing with some pretty tough things.