Mars and Venus Starting Over audiobook

This book was terribly personal for me and made me work through the pain of true heartbreak. Once I had truthfully and 100% completed the steps in this books, I felt I had the capability to move on in my life! This is a must read for anyone out there that has had their heart completely and utterly ripped out. For those in this world shattered because they love with all they have and wear their hearts on their sleeve, this is a way to begin living again and preparing yourself for the love dive one more time.

I really loved the first section on how to heal your heart- the second and third sections are geared towards the different sexes about how to stop preventing new love in your life- they didn't really apply to my current situation. I do have issues that require for me to heal my broken heart and I plan on implementing several of his techniques to help me with that. The first section is a great read for anyone suffering from a broken heart- from death of a loved one, a break-up or divorce, etc.

This book was so.. therapeutic. It understood exactly what I was going through. The author himself had to endure through such a tramatic tragedy that you can't help but trust him as he eventually got out of his pit. Even though it's a "secular" book, it had profound truths.. and all truths are God's truths. The end.

Having found Mars and Venus a help in understanding the psyche of men and women more easily and let's face it, we are very different in our practical thinking processes at times, I then found this book whilst seeking to find myself again after a painful marriage breakup.I have to admit to wholeheartedly weeping from the depths of my soul whilst carrying out some of the tasks here in the recovery process, having said that, they proved invaluable in helping me to move on out of the 'pain and sadness stage'. I realised too that whilst healing from that relationship ending, that I also found it helped to find closure regarding other severed physical earthly ties, ie my father's passing and that of my 1st husband's too. I wished I had had that tool all those years before, I am sure I would have recovered much more quickly. Although I do feel there are stages of grief which we all go through, this book would have moved me on more effortlessly I am sure.I have recommended this book and its exercises to other friends who have been through similar marriage or relationship breakups in the past or loss of parents and children and even pets.I am now a qualified hypnotherapist and although I no longer 'prescribe' the book itself, I do work on similar practices in helping my clients to move on and work through the stages of grief and loss.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who is going through a divorce or death of a loved one. It really helped me get my mind straight after my Ex left me.

A good book to work through issues stemming from a breakup. There is much to be said about John Gray's approach to differentiating between the way a man and woman suffer after a breakup. There's also quite a bit of exploration of family-of-origin learned behaviors that can help someone trace why the breakup occurred in the first place and how to rewire faulty thinking that doesn't serve one's search for a healthy relationship.That said, I am not positive that Dr. Gray's approach in writing from the male-female dichotomy is free of his own attitudes toward both sexes. I cannot recall specific passages that suggested to me that he was asserting points from an assumptive point of view based on his own experience with that particular sex. He does point out that there are aspects of both the Mars-world and Venus-world that will be relevant to someone regardless of their own gender. So, perhaps in the end my impression that he doesn't have a complete and unbiased picture of either sex is not enough of a reason to not recommend this book.I found this very helpful for me on many levels. I was able to see very clearly my own attitudes toward healing and recovering from a painful breakup. I realize I probably never healed from breakups that occurred many years ago. I also think there are other types of relationships, close bond friendships, that also trigger emotions that require the healing work outlined in this book. I see very clearly how the attitudes I faced growing up in a household with a very unhappy mother, justifiably unhappy, resulted in an understandably difficult situation in my adult relationships with women. If I had never read the Venus section of the book, I never would have learned exactly why I get so frustrated and defensive when a woman expresses that they are not happy or satisfied. This was a breakthrough realization for me.I am not completely healed from my past relationships now that I'm done with one read-through of this book. My past relationships are clouded by a haunting sense of dread in me when faced with the notion of finding love, joy, and happiness in a romantic relationship. This dread goes deeper than one or even a few lost relationships.This is an active book, requiring that action be taken. I will review many sections in the early part of this book to help me continue to heal. There's an excellent section called "101 Ways to Heal our Hearts," which outlines ways to remember and honor the person you loved. There are other sections encouraging remembering the good and questions for processing and remembering "hot spots" from the past. These hot spots are experiences that need healing.The idea of focusing on the positive and beautiful, rather than the painful and negative, is a brilliant strategy for letting go of the dysfunction that mires people in unhealthy relationships. To me, this book fits in very well with the other works I've read on enlightenment, healing, and spirituality. The book also fits well into the philosophies and concepts brought out in my counseling and 12-step work. In fact, I read this book after Mars and Venus on a Date was recommended by my therapist. I mentioned that title to a friend, who then suggested this book. As I felt in need of healing first, I read this book first. I will now go on to read "on a Date" and others...

Un excellent livre sur la psychologie liée à une rupture ou un deuil. Simple à lire, ce livre vous suivra tout au long du processus de la guérison. L'étude d'une partie pour les femmes, mais aussi celle des hommes vous permettra de mettre au clair certaines choses incomprises, sur la compréhension, l'attitude, le mode de fonctionnement, de pensée du sexe opposé. Des exercices efficaces sont proposés également, témoignages et résultats à l'appui.Il répond aussi à plusieurs questions qu'on se pose dans ces situations là. Un vrai guide!Ce livre peut vous servir ou servir à aider une personne proche. Lorsqu'on comprend le processus de deuil de la femme ou de l'homme, il devient alors plus facile de se laisser aller aux émotions et pardonner.Il s'applique à la majorité des gens, mais pas au cas à part. Toutefois il permet de montrer, justement, ce que c'est que la "normalité".Vous n'avez pas besoin de vivre une rupture ou un deuil ou avoir un ami dans ce cas pour lire ce livre, car il parle aussi des blessures du passé, mal refermées. Vous allez comprendre d'avantage le comportement de certaines personnes blessées par le passé. Très instructif.Je recommande fortement.Un livre à garder, à lire et relire.

This book is really helpful to those people who thought that there's no hope. This book taught me that to be able to move forward we should remove/unload the baggages that we carry from our past. That everything has an end. Thanks to John Gray because he continue writing such an inspiring books like this which tackles things that is happening in reality and this has been an inspiration to me to be a strong and better person... thanks you help another person to becoming a positive and ready to face every trials that comes her way... :-)

I was surprised with how much sense this book made. It is worth the read to anyone in a relationship, struggling in a relationship or better yet; to read it before getting into a relationship. It helps you get in touch with your own personal hang ups and insight as to why you have such struggles. I really wish I had read this one years ago, it might have made a major difference in my life, it is making a difference from here on and this is good for me.

One of the most useful books I've ever readIf you just got out of a relationship, you probably have a million thoughts and questions, and you think you are alone, this book will answer your questions and give you back your peace of mind, and help you realize that many people are on the same boat with you (and that's kind of reassuring) its scientific approach and practical examples and exercises are very helpful.

It’d be great if subjects like this along with finance, nutrition, self-sufficiency, etc. were widely taught at school. Is true that one is never prepared to face the loss of a loved one, a breakup or divorce but having some knowledge about the matter makes us aware that when a heartbreak comes our way there are means to deal with it more effectively.Among the discussed techniques in the book i found interesting the idea of not shutting down the door on those sad feelings that invade us when thinking about that past relationship or person as it create resistance, so it’s better adviced to let the door open for those emotions to flow freely without hampering the process of moving on.

To be fair, I only read the first chapter the common one and then the second chapter which is focused on venus (women). I must say the words actually surprised me. Its like looking at your habits from a third person’s perspective. Definitely gained a lot of insight through this book. Will definitely recommend this to someone who is going back in dating life after a heartbreak or a love loss. I believe there is definitely some bit for everyone in this book and should be read, you mat choose not to follow the advise but keeping your behaviour under microscope will definitely bring some self reflection and hopefully a positive change.

After reading this book, I realized some points no one had told me before. Being a woman, I did not know what happened in my mind until I read it. I knew I had made a mistake in inferring a lot of problems myself. Every sentence in the book is strangely logical and linear. I think all men and women should give it a shot.

Though this book might be positioned for those who had painful breakup or loss of their love ones, it is relavant to anyone who is emotionally attached to other person. The author has analysed exhaustively and walks you through the complete recovery journey. Lovely read to know about the Mars and Venus worlds.!