Marriage and relationships are in crisis. The breakup and divorce rate remain incredibly high, despite all the couples therapy, afternoon talk shows, and other books in the marketplace, many of which describe men as abusive commitment phobic creeps who’d  better change fast or else. But this new book is totally different, a whole different way of looking at how to build a successful long-lasting relationship from a man’s point of view, men who are happy in their partnerships, who have figured out what works for them in accomplishing the goal of a loving, intimate, lifetime commitment. Dr. Scott Haltzman, Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Human Behavior at Brown University, and founder of www.secretsofmarriedmen.com,  has devised a proven method for improving relationships, based on a man’s special and unique skills, strengths, powers — as a responsible and motivated worker, manager, leader, problem-solver, partner, husband, and father. Men are different, Dr. Haltzman says. They don’t approach relationships with the same skills and techniques that women do — and viva la difference. Dr.Haltzman therefore lays out eight ways, tasks, proven techniques which men have revealed in confidential correspondence to his highly successful website, including The First Way: Make Your Marriage Your Job, The Second Way: Know Your Wife, The Third Way: Be Home Now, The Fourth Way: Expect Conflict and Deal With It, The Fifth Way: Learn to Listen, The Sixth Way: Aim to Please, The Seventh Way: Understand the Truth About Sex, The Eighth Way: Introduce Yourself, and finally, Celebrate Your Love. Within each of these steps, he provides both specific analysis, guidelines and techniques based on male biology, neuro-science, brain differences, unique developmental stages from youth to seniority. To illustrate these ideas in action, he’s included wonderful true stories, anecdotes, and confessions from the website. The result is a practical, very entertaining, totally original way to build successful relationships for men and their partners, girlfriends, and wives.

Dr. Haltzman has taken dozens of stories from his clinical practice and on-line surveys to help women relax and enjoy a happy marriage by not working so hard on it, by doing less, talking less, skipping a few counseling sessions, understanding their husband’s way of expressing himself, and taking better care of themselves. Here are some key secrets revealed from www.DrScott.com * Learn to communicate more about the connection you seek so your husband really knows what it looks like and how to do it. He’ll accept it as his goal. * Realize that your husband sees his most important job as pleasing you. Seriously. Remember the line “You make me want to be a better man”! * Who says the house has to look like Barbie’s Dream Home? * Nurture your husband’s strengths and don’t try to change what you can’t. * Speak in shorter sentences, don’t skip from subject to subject, and pause frequently. No kidding * Take time for your own exercise, spiritual and intellectual needs. * Avoid fruitless and unrewarding emotional work like most marriage therapy, how to books (except this one), and gripe sessions.