Harriet Lerner
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Fear and Other Uninvited Guests
- By: Harriet Lerner
- Narrator: Harriet Lerner
- Length: 3 hours 44 minutes
- Publisher: HarperAudio
- Publish date: June 08, 2004
- Language: English
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3.97(321 ratings)
Bestselling author Harriet Lerner is at her provocative best in this examination of fear as the key motivating force in our lives.
Often unrecognised, fear and shame drive our choices and attitudes in ways that most of us never figure out. As Lerner explains, fear is not an amorphous unknown to be transcended or overcome but an emotion to be recognized, explored, decoded and embraced. Once we befriend fear, it can actually help us achieve calm, clarity and fundamental peace.
Lerner teaches us the best ways to deal with fear: to expect, allow, and accept its presence in our lives, to mindfully observe and attend to how it feels in our bodies and, ultimately to own it. We can become experts on our personal triggers of anxiety, learning when fear signals real danger and when it’s best to plough through it because it comes with the territory of making necessary changes. The very worst thing we can do in the face of fear is to run from it or try to avoid it. Fear is not something to be conquered or eliminated–or even tackled, for that matter. Instead, we need to pay close attention to the message it is trying to convey.
Using her wonderfully rich and inviting therapeutic voice along with personal memories and examples drawn from her practice, Lerner gives fear its due. We needn’t let anxiety, fear, and shame silence our authentic voice, close our hearts to the different voices of others, or stop us from acting with dignity, integrity and brio. We need to harness fear and put it in service to our best selves.
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LIFE PRESERVERS
- By: Harriet Lerner
- Narrator: Harriet Lerner
- Length: 3 hours 1 minutes
- Publisher: HarperAudio
- Publish date: October 04, 2005
- Language: English
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3.71(78 ratings)
With wit, wisdom and uncommon sense, Dr. Harriet Lerner gives readers the tools to solve problems and create joy, meaning and integrity in their relationships. Women will find Life Preservers (more than 40,000 copies sold in hardcover) to be an invaluable motivational guide that covers the landscape of work and creativity, anger and intimacy, friendship and marriage, children and parents, loss and betrayal, sexuality and health and much more.
With new insights and a results-oriented approach, Dr. Lerner answers women’s most frequently asked questions and offers the best advice for problems women face today:
I always pick the wrong guys.
Should I move in with him?
I can’t stand my boss.
Should I leave my marriage?
How can I recover from his affair?
Is my fantasy abnormal?
Is my therapy working?
I miss my mother.
I can’t believe I was fired.
Marriage Rules
- By: Harriet Lerner
- Narrator: Natalie Ross
- Length: 5 hours 16 minutes
- Publisher: Penguin Random House Audio Publishing Group
- Publish date: January 01, 2022
- Language: English
Following a unique format perfect for today’s world, the renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives us just over 100 rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships.
Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems (“He won’t talk”/”She doesn’t want sex”) as well as modern ones (your partner’s relationship to technology.) You’ll also learn how to:
- Calm things down and warm them up
- Talk straight and fight fair
- Listen well as a spiritual practice
- Connect with a distant partner
- Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren and difficult- laws
- Follow a 12-step program to overcome defensiveness
- Know how and when to draw the line
- Take back your marriage when things fall apart
Marriage Rules is a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your couple relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction. If one person in a couple follows ten rules of his or her choice, it will generate a major, positive change. All that’s required is a genuine wish for a better relationship and a willingness to practice.
The Dance of Anger
- By: Harriet Lerner
- Narrator: Harriet Lerner
- Length: 2 hours 58 minutes
- Publisher: HarperAudio
- Publish date: May 11, 2004
- Language: English
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4.09(21410 ratings)
The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships.
Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel–and certainly our anger is no exception.
“Anger is a signal and one worth listening to,” writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.
For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.
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- By: Harriet Lerner
- Narrator: Barbara Caruso
- Length: 6 hours 50 minutes
- Publisher: HarperAudio
- Publish date: August 16, 2016
- Language: English
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4.09(21410 ratings)
Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel–and certainly our anger is no exception.
“Anger is a signal and one worth listening to,” writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.
For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.
... Read moreThe Dance of Connection
- By: Harriet Lerner
- Narrator: Harriet Lerner
- Length: 4 hours 39 minutes
- Publisher: HarperAudio
- Publish date: July 05, 2005
- Language: English
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4.07(2647 ratings)
Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one’s “authentic voice” in intimate relationships.
The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives.
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The Dance of Intimacy
- By: Harriet Lerner
- Narrator: Harriet Lerner
- Length: 2 hours 52 minutes
- Publisher: HarperAudio
- Publish date: May 11, 2004
- Language: English
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4.02(9065 ratings)
The Dance of Intimacy takes a careful look at relationships where intimacy is most challenged by too much emotional distance, too much intensity, or simply too much pain. In clear, direct and dramatic terms, Dr. Lerner illustrates how we can move differently in these relationships — be they with a distant or unfaithful spouse, a depressed sister, a difficult mother, an alcoholic father, an uncommitted lover, a dying parent, or an estranged family member.And she teaches us about “the differences that make a difference” — the changes we can make in one or two significant relationships that will affect our capacity for intimacy and selfhood for a lifetime.
The Dance of Intimacy offers no “quick fix” for the human dilemma that we all confront. Instead, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, respectful, and helpful insights on intimate relationships that both men and women may ever encounter. Picking up where the best-selling The Dance of Anger left off, Dr. Lerner redefines the meaning of intimacy for today, and shows how good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones healed.
... Read moreThe Mother Dance
- By: Harriet Lerner
- Narrator: Harriet Lerner
- Length: 3 hours 4 minutes
- Publisher: HarperAudio
- Publish date: October 04, 2005
- Language: English
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3.84(479 ratings)
Bestselling Author Harriet Lerner leads you in the most magnificent dance of all: The Mother Dance!
Her phenomenally successful audio books have profoundly changed the way we think about anger and intimacy. Now psychologist and mother Harriet Lerner tackles the most emotionally charged, issue of all time: motherhood.
In her own candid, and compassionate voice, Dr. Lerner discusses this extraordinary, life-altering experience as no one before her has done. Listen as she explores:
- his new life versus your new life
- worry guilt, self-blame and other unavoidables of motherhood
- how your own childhood influences your parenting
- the unexpected feelings motherhood awakens in you — good and bad
- how children change your marriage
- how to talk to kids you can’t talk to
- mothers and daughters — mothers and sons
- and much much more — from labor pains to empty nest pangs
Lerner shares personal stories and vivid case examples that are both hilarious and heart-wrenching. Lerner will guide you on this lifelong journey, whether you’re considering having children, currently raising little ones, or are the mother of grown-up children.
Read by the author on two cassettes.
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- By: Harriet Lerner
- Narrator: Suzanne Toren
- Length: 9 hours 38 minutes
- Publisher: HarperAudio
- Publish date: July 12, 2016
- Language: English
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3.84(479 ratings)
From the celebrated author of The Dance of Anger comes an extraordinary book about mothering and how it transforms us — and all our relationships — inside and out. Written from her dual perspective as a psychologist and a mother, Lerner brings us deeply personal tales that run the gamut from the hilarious to the heart-wrenching. From birth or adoption to the empty nest, The Mother Dance teaches the basic lessons of motherhood: that we are not in control of what happens to our children, that most of what we worry about doesn’t happen, and that our children will love us with all our imperfections if we can do the same for them. Here is a gloriously witty and moving book about what it means to dance the mother dance.
... Read moreWhy Won’t You Apologize?
- By: Harriet Lerner
- Narrator: Cassandra Campbell
- Length: 4 hours 36 minutes
- Publisher: Simon & Schuster Audio
- Publish date: January 01, 2017
- Language: English
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4.33(2905 ratings)
“If you want to know why Harriet Lerner is one of my great heroes, Why Won’t You Apologize? is the answer. This book is a game changer.” –Brene Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Rising Strong
“Harriet Lerner is one hell of a wise woman. She draws you in with deft and engaging prose, and then changes your life with her rigorous intelligence and her deeply human advice. I promise that you will never see ‘the apology’ in quite the same way.” –Esther Perel, MA, LMFT author of Mating in Captivity
Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language–I’m sorry–and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken connections and restoring trust.
Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies–and why some people won’t give them–for more than two decades. Now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that bring home how much the simple apology matters and what is required for healing when the hurt we’ve inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Readers will learn how to craft a deeply meaningful “I’m sorry” and avoid apologies that only deepen the original injury.
Why Won’t You Apologize? also addresses the compelling needs of the injured party–the one who has been hurt by someone who won’t apologize, tell the truth, or feel remorse. Lerner explains what drives both the non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, as well as why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own up. She helps the injured person resist pressure to forgive too easily and challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With her trademark humor and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving guide to setting things right.