The Compassionate Achiever audiobook

A child is bullied every seven minutes. Over 150,000 school kids miss school each day because they’re afraid of being bullied in class. One out of two students drop out of school because of bullying. Over a third of adults say they’ve experienced incivility at work and 26-percent have quit their jobs because of it. Stress costs American businesses approximately 300-billion dollars each year. Is it safe to think we need a little compassion in our lives? I think so.In his book THE COMPASSIONATE ACHIEVER: How Helping Others Fuel Success (HareperOne) by Christopher L. Kukk, PhD, argues compassion creates more construction relationships, improves health and creates and more productive work environments. It’s not about becoming a Saint or a door-mat, but having the strength to be rational and not giving into rage or indifference.The Book teaches The LUCA four-step program for cultivating compassion.*Listening to identify to problem.*Understanding to discover what options can help.*Connecting to capabilities that can address the issue or obstacle.*Acting to solve.With the THE COMPASSIONATE ACHIEVER everyone wins—we can each achieve success in our own lives and create more productive workplaces, and healthier, less violent communities.After reading THE COMPASSIONATE ACHIEVER, I’m practicing my listening skills. I’m trying to respond instead of react. It may take time, but I appreciate what this book points out for me. Dr. Kukk’s book is wake-up call for anyone who wants to WAKE-UP. It’s not didactic or “super-self-helpy,” so I may give it as a gift to friends.

Before I had Lucy I had really struggled with people. I was that mom who volunteered at every opportunity at my kids' school, any time a friend needed help with something I immediately offered to help out. I took on far more than I should have onto my plate and there were many nights that I would stay up far later than I should have getting things done for other people. I felt tremendous guilt saying no to someone, even for minor things, because I knew what it took to ask for help so I assumed if someone was asking me it was because they really needed it. I hated to let someone down. I did this for years. I felt so unappreciated, unrecognized, unacknowledged, and frankly- abused. It got to the point where I started actually resenting the very things I used to enjoy doing. I wanted to be helpful and now I hated it. I hated being dependable. I hated being organized. I hated all of these things because now people just expected me to take care of it all. Then I died. And the world stopped. And crisis happened. I had no idea any of it was happening, but all around me, people rallied. They rallied small and they rallied big. People I did a lot for, people I did nothing for but who recognized that I had done a lot for others. But they rallied all around me and my family and they helped us get through a really horrific event. My act of dying reminded me that compassion is still out there. People still have it. It's maybe not practiced every day, or maybe we just aren't seeing it anymore, but it's still there. Somewhere in all of us compassion sits, waiting to be reached. Which is why when I saw this book I immediately jumped on it because I am absolutely convinced all of the positives that have come to my family in the aftermath of Lucy's birth don't have much to do with a greater power but more so in the fact that I am a good person. Matt and I are good people. We do good things for people as often as we can. We don't ask for repayment or recognition, we just hope that someday if we ever need help you'd be willing to help us- and it actually worked. As I went through this book I was pleased to find that it isn't just business speak that you read, nod your head, and then it sits on the shelf in your office totally useless. It gives you practical uses. How do you pull compassion from people? How can you turn conversations, that could easily be heated and uncivil, to calm and reasonable? How do you get each side to see each other's point of view, not necessarily to agree, but to actually listen to all points. The book talks about how compassion isn't just a great quality to have as a human being but how it actually improves a work place (or a school environment) and the quality of life in a community. I was reading this thinking this would actually make a great textbook in a humanities class in college but why wait? Why not have this as part of a high school curriculum? As part of a social studies class? I know compassion, and empathy, are things we should be teaching at home but let's face it- we're asking parents to teach something they themselves don't have. The book mentions how compassion starts to really dip in the 1990's but that we are at an all time low right now, so that means those kids of the 90's (me, for example) are now parents- no wonder it's at an all time low. We're asking people to teach and pass on something that they themselves don't have. This book gives us a four-step, totally easy, common sense program, to do that. You can do it with your kids, your friends, your co-workers, or the people you supervise. It's really such a great book to read for anyone because there are so many ways to use it in your life.

Full of useful tactics to help yourself and others. Anyone in a position of working with people could benefit from the message here. As a school bus driver, I feel equipped with new tools to guide young people with, but I also feel equipped to respond with compassion in everyday situations too.

For those of us for which compassion seems an abstract concept and it doesn’t come out as easily as it comes to others, this is an excellent book to train, develop and expand the “muscle” of compassion.

The book is on how taking care of others not only helps your bottom line but your life as a person. There is a lot of good advice not only on why this is but also on how to build compassion into your life and why compassion protects you from burnout in your job and as a human being.

This book was extremely informative and helpful. There is no reason that it should not have five stars from everyone. I wish I could have given it a million stars.

another great inspiring book that supports and enlightens my vision highly recommended

Interesting perspective with an overview of various models and frameworks on collaboration and cooperation.

Everyone should read this book.

This is a good read with practical advice based on sound research. I found it a bit long-winded but the message is great.

Lots of information, so difficult as an audio version. Some topics in the middle seem irrelevant and unnecessary.